Loving the Unknown

[Uriel]

We all want something, anything. Wanting means we are still alive, and as long as we stay alive, we will always want something.
Most of us, when we want something, start thinking of how to get it because if we did know how to get it, we wouldn't be thinking of it, but just go and get it.
Sometimes, we find rather quickly how to get what we want and everything is fine, but when we don't we start feeling frustration after a while, sometimes we feel also anger because we don't know how to get what we want, jealousy of the people around us who are getting what they want, and maybe even the very same thing we want as well, and fear that we might never be able to achieve that special desire.
Now, those are not the best feelings we like to feel, so after a while, when we yet don't find the way to get where or what we want, we simply forget about it, push it aside, suppressing it, believing it is not possible for us to get it. The thing is that although we suppress it, those same feelings stay with us no matter how strong we try to forget the reason which caused them to begin in the first place.

The source to all this is fear, the fear of change.

When we want something that means we yet do not have it, and that means something in us must change in order to get what we want, and that scares us. It is unknown to us and the biggest fear of all man-kind is the unknown.

Now here is a little problem, because change happens all the time, every second of our lives, and that means, if we are afraid of change that we live in constant fear our entire lives, not a very pleasant idea, is it?

As I grew up, I noticed this and decided I could not go on living if I couldn't find a way to settle that fear, so I began searching for a way to know, not believe, but know that whatever happens, I will be just fine.

I would like to share it with you now, and for that I would like you to look within yourselves and pick an area you have or had interest in through your lives, pick something you've touch, observed and chose as a part of your lives.
Now observe with yourselves and answer these questions:
Do you know more in that specific area than you did 10 years ago?
When you will find yourselves in a situation in that area, would you know better how to act and what to do?
Even if you won't succeed, still, you would know better in that specific area. We live our lives in the thought, that only when we succeed, we prove to ourselves, and to the world surrounding us that we know.
And what happens when we don't? Aren't we still learning?
After all, even when we don't really think about it later, when we find ourselves in that same situation, we, even if it will be for a split of a second, will remember the situation from past experiences, and will react to it differently, even if we won't be able to explain what the difference was exactly.
And slowly, slowly, time after time, we will examine the situation from within, and in some point, we will just know.
We will know what to do, we will know what to say, we will know who to speak to, and even, we will know that even if we don't know right now, at some point, we will know.

What does this entire thing mean?
That if we improve every moment, and if we get better and better, even if it takes some time, and if change is the only permanent thing in our world,
That means that change is good.
So, if change is permanent, and we grow and know better every moment that means that change is making us better. We change and improve, grow and learn, and slowly, slowly, grow to contain more than we could before. We can, more, with time.

So what does all this mean?
That one of those days, and no matter what we will do, our desires will come true, and if we still want them, they will be there, waiting for us to understand, waiting for us in infinite patience, waiting for us to grow, to become wiser, to know to contain them, one of those days.
It's ok, you can breathe.
The change happens by itself.
And change, is good.

[desmond dillon]

 

wanting needing and change make for very  interesting topics to me. oh and living with the moment called now. certainly we all want contentment and after a lifetime spent trying to achieve it i must say to those that can hear it is to be found in the one changeless thing in our lives. namely our essential self. self knowledge is the one thing i've discovered that mitigates the endlessly changing wanting which can be so tiresome.

[Len Howard]

As I see it, the first problem is that we WANT. the second problem is also that we WANT..Live in the moment and you will find that "we don't always get what we WANT, but do always get what we NEED"(the rolling stones). With all respect, your blog is waaaay off base.

Len Howard